Anthony de Mello, SJ once ostentatiously declared in a spoken retreat that he was going to write a book entitled, “I’m an ass and you’re an ass!”*
The point he was making was that it is profoundly liberating to experience one’s own capacity to be petty, selfish, mean, or worse. This realization frees us from our moral superiority before others and opens a world of connection.
And how right he is! Acknowledging oneself as no better than the person we judge frees us from nasty narratives that divide us.
*The retreat has actually been turned into the audiobook of Awareness.