In college, we used to jokingly talk about “the DTR”… where two people, with unspoken interest in a romantic relationship need to take time to “define the relationship.”
It’s a great turn of phrase and a useful tool.
It is worth it, too, to periodically have a DTR with one’s practice of religion.
That is, does my practice of religion:
Pad my ego and sense of superiority?
Narrow what I am willing to see?
Or does it represent a humbling preparation to enter a mystery of love, to engage a life more abundant than we could have imagined or engineered?
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