So, consider for a moment that person one might disagree with… How we engage them and the story we tell about that interaction turns them into an adversary or an enemy. An adversary is a sparing partner, a worthy rival. An enemy is someone you behold with hostile contempt from whom nothing can be learned. Continue reading “Adversary or Enemy?”
Author Archives: Paul Mitchell
Healthspan
I recently heard “heathspan” (how many years one is healthy) contrasted with “lifespan” (how many years one is alive). It’s a generative distinction, helping us focus on the health and quality of the years we live. And what kind(s) of health are we talking about? Bodily, certainly. That is the assumed definition. But also spiritualContinue reading “Healthspan”
The Confederacy of the Humbled
Count Rostov, the uniquely charming protagonist of A Gentleman in Moscow, experiences the loss of stature, influence, and the world he has known. (Not a spoiler! It happens on page 1.) By way of recovery from this loss, he casts a new narrative and describes his inclusion in the “Confederacy of the Humbled”:
“a close-knit brotherhood whose members travel with no outward markings, but who know each other at a glance. For having fallen suddenly from grace, those in the Confederacy share a certain perspective. Knowing beauty, influence, fame, and privilege to be borrowed rather than bestowed, they are not easily impressed. They are not quick to envy or take offense. They certainly do not scour the papers in search of their own names. They remain committed to living among their peers, but they greet adulation with caution, ambition with sympathy, and condescension with an inward smile.”
When live’s losses come for us, we have a choice. We can rehearse and resent them, living within their confines. Or we can pray for the grace to acknowledge and integrate them, reengaging life as wisely as the Count.
God Made That!
For me, one of life’s finest joys is to be so thrilled by the creation of a book that I can’t imagine how it did not exist before. With unique thoughtfulness and passion, Kat Hoenke and Bill Jacobs, both professional ecologists and lay Catholic leaders, invite young people on a journey with the saints andContinue reading “God Made That!”
How
The things that we dedicate ourselves to… how do we go about them? Passionately? Frantically? Avoiding commitment and conflict? Relationally? While condescending from the moral high ground? With faith, hope, and love? How we go about what we do means a great deal.
Missing the Meaning
It is possible to have an experience that means to teach us – be it something wonderful or something difficult – and to miss its meaning. Maybe our attention is fragmented or stretched too thin. Maybe we willfully resist the lesson. We should not be surprised if life keeps offering us this lesson because weContinue reading “Missing the Meaning”
Half of Community
“Half of community is showing up,” a mentor once reminded me. I think that is right. Our presence matters. We cannot make the next important connection if we do not show up.
Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Fix
When we feel threatened, our brains click over to fight or flight or freeze mode. We attack, run, or seize up. And this does not help us address the “threat” intelligently. Ok, we have heard this before. But there are two more (tricky) manifestations of this that also counterproductive, but less obviously so. (1) FAWN:Continue reading “Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Fix”
Leading for Lent – Part 2
Two weeks ago, I wondered about what it would look like to take on the discomfort of leading, of gathering a group around a purpose, for Lent. This bit from chapter one of The Art of Gathering nicely focuses the challenge for our times.
Leading for Lent
I’ve heard that action is the antidote to anxiety. Recently, I’ve been wondering if it is not a little more specific.
What if agency, exercising intention and leadership in an uncertain situation, is in fact the way that uncertainty becomes less intimidating and more manageable?
And in situations where we seem to have no agency, we can learn to see that we do have a quite powerful opportunity: the possibility of gathering people together. More than we know, we are capable of convening a meaningful gathering serving a need of people we live, work, or pray with.
(I’ve recently picked up this book again to get better at this skill.)
Committing to convene a group of folks who need you is a cool thing to do for the liturgical season that started this Wednesday.
That is, what if we chose to lead for Lent?
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