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Category Archives: Accompaniment
Introspection and Outrospection
Introspection seeks deeper understanding by turning inward, exploring our own thoughts, emotions, and motivations.
Outrospection seeks deeper understanding by turning outward, focusing on the experiences and perspectives of others, deepening empathy and connection.
We each need both, and probably gravitate to one or the other.
We each may be well-served by practicing the one that does not come naturally.
We Need You to Lead Us
Each of us long for good leaders. People committed to the common good, rooted in wisdom and active love.
I’ve heard this hope expressed in the “prayers of the faithful” quite a bit recently.
What if, as an answer to this prayer, God is speaking you to the world as the leader that you long to see?
What’s Your 15%?
In this situation where I feel stuck and stymied, what is in my power to change?
A deeply important question to ask, and one that can be tough to answer well.
I was recently shown this succinct (and fun!) 20 minute group exercise that helps each participant answer the question with clarity and power.
What is your 15%?
Are We in Love With God’s Creation?
Do we love creation with the same love with which God loves creation?
That is a very high standard, an exquisite opportunity, and a grace for which we can pray daily.
Behind the Behavior
When someone does something that really winds us up, what do we learn if we get curious and ask: “What’s behind the behavior?”
If the behavior is particularly perplexing, chances are there’s fear behind it.
When we realize this, and realize our own capacity for fear, it becomes easier to get close enough to love.
Triple Maximum Speed!
Our sons love to run in a circuit through our apartment. As they do, the younger one loudly reports their movement from “maximum speed!” to “DOUBLE maximum speed” to “TRIPLE MAXIMUM SPEED!”
This is a harmless (so far!) game for them, but for most adults “triple maximum speed” is the uncritically accepted norm of life. We are too often stretched to breaking and do not consider that there is another way. When we do this, we miss the things of greatest value.
These are urgent times we live in… so, let us slow down.
Tithing Time
Tithing has typically meant donating money.
What would it mean to tithe a more precious resource, our time?
To offer a choice piece of our time each day to prayer and contemplation?
And then to meaningfully connect with another about the world we long for?
The MGI
St. Ignatius wrote in annotation 22 of the Spiritual Exercises that “every good Christian ought to be more eager to put a good interpretation on a neighbor’s statement than to condemn it.”
What is on offer here is to habituate the MGI – the most generous interpretation – which holds the door open for curiosity, learning.
This is difficult. Our brains are wired to scan the world for threats in order to keep ourselves safe. It is possible, though, that true safety may be arrived at only when a big group of us are able to default to the MGI.
Courageous or “Morally Superior”?
When we find polarization in our world (and we all do all of the time), do we engage it such that we might solve the underlying problem? Or do we engage in order to feel morally superior?
This outstanding video frames the question brilliantly.
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