The Professional Reader

We rightly appreciate great writing.  The value of authors that can teach a distilled concept or weave a magical world is congratulated and remunerated.  But what about the value of readers?  How might we equally honor the student (or adult) who seeks out varied and worthy writing, courageously struggles to understand its import and beauty,Continue reading “The Professional Reader”

Presupposing Goodness

St. Ignatius describes a “presupposition” that should guide the relationship between spiritual director and directee as follows: That both the giver and the maker of the Spiritual Exercises may be of greater help and benefit to each other, it should be presupposed that every good Christian ought to be more eager to put a goodContinue reading “Presupposing Goodness”

The Three Gates

Our sons’ teacher gives her class the following conceptual hook to think about how they speak to their classmates.  She asks them, before they address another, to pass the words they are considering through the following “three gates.” Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? (And kind is not always “nice”… these youngContinue reading “The Three Gates”

“If it is not my truth…”

“… then it is a lie.” Living out of this mentality makes us fragile and reactionary. The ability to consider the truth of another’s experience, even momentarily and provisionally, is fundamental to an empathic life in community. This is not a permissive acceptance of everything thought or felt. (So not: “Everything is true everywhere!”)  ItContinue reading ““If it is not my truth…””

In Time / Out of Time

It is possible to live “out of time.”  That is, to cling to a moment, season, or epoch and “how things were then” and “how we thought or spoke back then.”   We need not even have experienced this period of time, but have only learned about it.  Put another way, it is possible to experienceContinue reading “In Time / Out of Time”

Adversary or Enemy?

So, consider for a moment that person one might disagree with… How we engage them and the story we tell about that interaction turns them into an adversary or an enemy. An adversary is a sparing partner, a worthy rival. An enemy is someone you behold with hostile contempt from whom nothing can be learned.  Continue reading “Adversary or Enemy?”

Leading for Lent

I’ve heard that action is the antidote to anxiety.  Recently, I’ve been wondering if it is not a little more specific. 

What if agency, exercising intention and leadership in an uncertain situation, is in fact the way that uncertainty becomes less intimidating and more manageable? 

And in situations where we seem to have no agency, we can learn to see that we do have a quite powerful opportunity: the possibility of gathering people together.  More than we know, we are capable of convening a meaningful gathering serving a need of people we live, work, or pray with. 

(I’ve recently picked up this book again to get better at this skill.)

Committing to convene a group of folks who need you is a cool thing to do for the liturgical season that started this Wednesday. 

That is, what if we chose to lead for Lent?