You’re Wrong. I Rule.

(This is the second of the Four Horsemen of Fixed Mindset, four mental stances that clip our potential, limit our intelligence, and stifle budding growth.) 

In this mental stance, when faced with constructive feedback or a setback, we become defiant. (I don’t deserve this! You’re wrong, world!  I rule!)

This Horseman takes the legs out from under our curiosity.  We avoid the questions that could lead to our growth.  For example: What could I learn from this generous gift of feedback? What is the whole, complex picture of why I experienced that specific failure?  How might I improve?

When we say, “I’m right. I rule. Full stop,” we wimp out.  We dodge the uncomfortable but healthy questions that the situation at hand poses to us.