I once heard of an orchestra conductor who trained all of his musicians to do the following.
Whenever they made a mistake, they were to raise their hands over their heads and proclaim, “How fascinating!”
Is this not a wonderful habit? To engage our mistakes with curiosity and playfulness?
This stance releases us from the compulsion to fabricate (and dig in behind) a self-justifying narrative. (It also skips over the reflex to just give up.)
That is to say, there is more time and energy left for becoming a more loving person.
When we are habituated to this mindset, everything is an opportunity to grow.
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